Celebrating Self Love

You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
― Gautama Buddha

Being a single person on February can be tough. chances are you are being bombarded by roses, hearts, teddy bears, engagement rings and  happy couples all  wrapped in red and pink! 

 I've always felt like an outcast during "valentine season". The main reason being my belief that LOVE as the supreme force of the universe and the core of the human soul, should and must be CELEBRATED EVERYDAY. Another reason is the emphasis placed on romantic love, the love between couples... what about SELF LOVE ?!  You don't necessarily need to be in a romantic relationship  to love and feel loved!

The most complex and important relationship that we have is with ourselves. If you are not able to have a healthy relationship with yourself you will never feel whole and satisfy with your life. Chances are you  also developed unhealthy relationships with others!!! YOU ARE YOUR NUMBER ONE STAR. Love starts in you, you are made of it. 

That being said,  I came up with a list of 10 things single folks like myself or maybe anyone can do to express love to themselves.  Here it goes:

1. Be grateful for life...your life, your body, your soul. Be grateful that you are you and nobody else!

2. Connect with your tribe (parents, siblings,cousins, friends, old friends, pets...) Creatures that love you unconditionally, feel their love and express your love to them. Don't wait,  do it now!!!

3. Cook yourself a meal! Even if your cooking skills are not impressive, try it out... make a mess. Feed your hunger with starch and sugar or whatever makes your mouth water.  Food is love!

4. Buy yourself flowers, your favorite ones, just walk in a store and buy some. Buy flowers for no reason, buy them because you are  happy and the sun is shining. Buy them because you had a rough day and it is raining...  Write a love note to yourself  expressing your qualities and uniqueness.  What do you love most about yourself ? Is it your smile, your loving heart, your crazy laughter... Tell yourself how awesome it is to be you!!!

5. Pamper yourself!! Lose yourself in water, take a hot shower or a bath. Lit your candles and incense. Rub oils in your body, touch you belly, rub your feet, feel them!

6.Laugh your butt off. Watch comedy, a funny movies or talk to someone who makes you laugh. Laugh till your belly hurts and your eyes are watering...

7. Dance by yourself, dance for yourself. Seduce yourself, dance with no shoes and no pants... touch your hair and sweat out. Move like you do in your dreams, move like you were watching.

8. Take pictures of yourself! Keep them private...for your eyes only. You need no external validation! Keep them in a folder or album, they are now your secret.

9.Kiss yourself in the mirror as children do!! Everyday... kiss slowly, kiss fast, kiss deeply looking into your own eyes. Feel that love in your heart... 

10.Touch you body... Every part of it, as you would want a lover touching it... Use your hands!! Feel your curves, smell your fragrances... Be your own aphrodisiac, love yourself, please your body. Kiss your hands and touch your body, love yourself until it’s imprinted by your love only.  As Dr. Seuss put it  "there is no one alive who is youer than You." 

Joy to all!